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Meeting Guys Who Aren’t Total Losers
Here’s a site that takes tough relationship issues head on. You may not agree with everything Dr T says and you may not like her solutions but you’ll have to admit she makes lot of sense. Too many marriages flounder along with heart wrenching conflicts hidden from general view (or so the participants hope) with neither party having the clues to escape the vicious cycles that are raging. It happens in Christian marriages just as much as in non-Christian marriages but the strong Christian taboo on divorce means many Christians suffer intolerably. Churches tend to take the view that the woman is always right and the guys need to be “men” loving their wives through every crisis. Dr T offers a balancing view – sometimes it isn’t right and won’t change (yet the guy isn’t an abusive neanderthal who is causing all the problems by his selfish attitude . . .)
Check out her site and see what you think – chances are you will gain valuable insights you can use.
There’s a new article on www.Shrink4Men.com that explores what “winning” means to abusive, high-conflict and/or personality disordered people. To an abusive BPD/NPD, “winning” is about taking from others, hurting and controlling them. Winning is not about working hard to achieve a goal. This explains why these individuals are rarely happy, even when they succeed in taking material assets, relationships and other tangible and intangible things from their victims.
Here’s the link:
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When God is Late (Again)
What are we supposed to do when life gets tough and God doesn’t seem to be coming through for us?
How To Really Get Ahead In Life.
Is ambition good or bad? Desirable or something to avoid at all costs? Is it okay to want to get ahead in life or is the spiritual person suppose to be free from all that stuff and just passively accept whatever life brings? Read the rest of this entry
Don’t Feel Inferior, But God Talks To Me.
“God told me I am to work with you this year.” Liz had learned the hard way to take this statement very lightly. She had worked hard to build a top-notch children’s ministry and it was incredibly effective. She had a lot of fun working with the kids Read the rest of this entry
See what Rebecca Hamilton has to say about why we need the church. Her post is a refreshingly honest and relevant take on the role the church plays in her life – maybe her observations also apply to us. See what you think.
Related articles
- God’s Chosen Weapon For Changing The World Is . . . (citesimon.com)
- How Church Makes People Happy (It’s Not What You Think) (holysoup.com)
Keys to a Balanced Life of Faith
On a scale of 10 we rated his sermon as a ten, no doubt about it. It had all the right points we approved of and he said all the things we know we agree with. We felt a comforting combination of guilt and relief about Read the rest of this entry
What Were You Thinking By Putting Us All At Risk?
If you aren’t surprised by the latest disclosures of sexual indiscretion in the Secret Service you should at least be concerned. There are significant and serious security issues involved and it is unsettling for us to recognize that an important arm of government has been seriously compromised. Is it the diet of stereotypes like Read the rest of this entry
Why Does Size Really Matter?
Small churches don’t necessarily qualify for some special badge of honor. It all depends on why they are small. Large churches don’t enjoy special standing with God because of their size. Read the rest of this entry
The Thing I Miss Most In Church
As she sat in the auditorium with her friends her mind was in “wander mode.” There was a time when she used to hang on every word the pastor said and write notes and want to go discuss her ideas after the service. Church had connected for her back then.
Why Does Jesus Have To Mess Things Up?
Everyone says Jesus does great stuff for us but I have some doubts. Sometimes he just doesn’t understand the great things we are doing for him. Read the rest of this entry
Cite Simon 